The fear of success phobia (Achievemephobia) may seem weird to most people; it is actually a very real social phobia affecting a large population worldwide.
It can make things difficult for the phobic: from getting hired for jobs, messing up ones relationships, etc.
The fear of success phobia is very much like the fear of failure: both prevent the Victim from dreaming and achieving his goals.
It might seem weird to fear success; after all what can be more appetizing and enhance the quality of life than it?
However, searing into the phobics mind shows that fearing success is natural to him, simply because he is not looking forward to embracing change as a part of his life. He is so comfortable in his current situation that he wants to continue to live the life despite hating it. Often, the individual might be afraid of success owing to the fear of inability to handle fame/popularity or wealth it brings.
It might awe you to know that many CEOs and presidents of banks have been known to have the fear of success.
Causes of Achievemephobia.
Success has mixed results: it can bring fame and money but it comes at a cost such as envy, jealousy, hurt, notoriety, limelight etc. This knowledge can cause deep fear in the minds Achievemephobic.
They also fear that people might see them differently or treat them differently from how they would’ve been treated if they weren’t successful.
Other reasons include:
* Fearing getting what one wants and being unable to handle achieving this.
* A person may be exceptionally talented yet he may have a long list of underachievement. This becomes a vicious circle ana making him refusing to set goals.
* Shy, introverted people or people who do not like limelight might suffer from Achievemephobia.
* Getting ahead of friends, colleagues, and close family members can be intimidating and threatening: one might fear breaking ties with these people.
* Parents unknowingly instill such fear in their childrens minds. The phobic fears losing the parents love and attention, hence he deliberately fails in order to get it.
* The fear of success phobia often stems from guilt or self doubt.
* A child who has always listened to comments like You will not succeed might carry the belief well into adulthood, second guessing and doubting everything he does and relying on others for everything.
Symptoms of fear of success phobia
Fear of failure and fear of success phobia are closely related. Achievemephobia is a rather unconscious phobia: often an individual is unaware that he has it and only be aware if it’s been pinpointed by a friend or a close relation. Other symptoms, both physical and psychological, include;
* People suffering from Achievemephobia are not able to handle success effectively: they might go on a wild roll of self destructive behavior: drinking, drug and substance abuse, unprotected sexual activities etc and end up losing all that they have achieved.
* Many refuse to set goals in the first place or sometimes keep postponing set goals till it becomes null.
* Often after getting success in a business, one closes it down or does something that is incompatible with ones character or against ones good sense.
Overcoming the fear of achievemephobic.
Fear is natural. To overcome the fear of success phobia, one must first accept it; even consider the fear a gift.
Writing down ones thoughts and changing negative into positive ones can be a great self-help technique while dealing with this phobia.
Positive visualizations, meditation and deep controlled breathing upon facing an anxiety attack related to thoughts associated with success are other self help remedies.
Hypnotherapy is another effective way of dealing with this phobia. It can help dig deeper into the mind of the phobic to pull out the imagination associated between success and failure and help differentiate between reality an non-reality.
Behavioral therapies and medications can also be taken to deal with anxiety and depression accompanying Achievemephobia. These drugs should be administered by the direction of an expert physician and should not be abused. Continuous use can cause side effects such as withdrawal symptoms in users.